na·ive- deficient in worldly wisdom or informed judgment; self-taught; primitive; natural
You would think that being naive at times would be good. You do not have to see all the evils of the world; objects, people and situations can remain innocent and holy in your eyes. Yet when the bubble breaks, your vision is blurred temporarily and you focus in on the harsh reality, you wonder how you could have been so naive to such an existing situaiton. After looking into to such naive situations I often ask myself "why didn't I think of that to begin with?"
Naive Blow #1:
A friend recently informed me of all the not-so-innocent happenings of a certain group that I like to obsess over. They spoke to me about stalkers, people getging upset, jealousy, and, to some extent though never spoken, adultery. adul·tery- voluntary sexual intercourse between a married man and someone other than his wife or between a married woman and someone other than her husband. When I was told of this I was in a small state of shock. How could these people, the ones that I have looked at with innocent eyes and placed on a pedastal for their ingenious in music and creativity, have actions such as these? Part of me wondered if all I was being told was true. Could it really all just be rumours to exploit this group? Could it all just be a ploy to make some people look incredibly bad, stalkerish, jealous and possibly a little psycho? I cannot give an answer to that because I am not 100% clear on the truth. The person who spoke to me is someone I trust, I do not expect them to lie. But I do keep what was said as half-truth for I have never witnessed it nor have I ever spoken to anyone who has been involved in the acts mentioned. Yet there is some truth to this discovery, these people are not who I thought they were and they are not as innocent as I have looked at them as being. Does this shatter my illusion and make me dislike them? Yes it shatters my illusion but it does not make me dislike them. I never looked at these people as objects, only as musical geniuses. And sometimes I laugh at this topic because I know that rock-stars "get booty". So why does this surprise me so much and catch me off guard? I cannot answer that because I have not yet figured it out.
Naive Blow #2:
I last spoke of people and situations being fake and two-sided. I also mentioned that I cannot deal with, and choose to step away from, situations that contain people and incidences involving this characteristic. This was also another naive blow because there is a person I know, who I thought I knew, but it turned out they were very different(surprised?). While I at first understood that everyone is different and everyone has a little mystery to themselves, I was naive to believe that such a person who acts so likeable, innocent and pure, and very friendly to everyone, could have a mystery that made them look not-so-innocent and very impure. When one complains to me about such things as "not wanting to be looked at by men as a just an object" and yet posts pictures of themselves on a website wearing nothing but lacy underwear, I feel as if I am talking to someone who is trying to pull the wool over my eyes. When I thought about this some more I realized there are more people out that there in society like this, who try to make themselves loook as chaste as possible in the public light, yet behind the scenes act lascivious and lustful. I feel as if, sometimes, I have been blindsided to the idea that people could actually be this way and pull it off day to day. Do I come across people like this often? Not to my knowledge, but speaking to a friend of mine helped clear the mess. I was able to realize that people with insecurities act this way and people who are arrogant may act this way as well. So why didn't I conclude this myself? I think I was partly hoping that this one person would change overnight so I could remain in conversation with them, but that has obviously not occured. The realization I came to recently is that I cannot be around people who I do not really know, who refuse to be real with me and who are fake and mysterious behind the scenes. And of course I might be around people like this without knowing, but it is those people that I do know that are acting this way that I cannot deal with or be around (am I picky?).
I know I have more naive blows in my life. And even though I try not to think of myself as naive, I just know that everyone has their naive niches in their life and one day have their eyes opened to the reality of the situation. While I cannot ignore these situations I simply realize them and move on. That is the way of life. Sometimes we can accept, embrace and move on, or we can accept, reject, and then move on. We all have choices, its simply up to one person to make that choice in the end.
